The sweetness of the forbidden fruit is so deceiving, it makes us do so many things we normally would just pass and leave it for the others and then regret it. We can't even see that we're being played and just go with the flow. But something triggers us in asking ourselves if this is really right, if this should really be like this. Question marks all over the place. The only friend we have in this situation is our intuition. If you feel something is wrong, it probably is, no doubt in sight. But there are some tiny aspects to look out for when you get that feeling of being played. He or she may be a skilled player but we have to top that, they all have their own slips and flaws.
As we all know, it all starts off really sweet. He or she tries to model his character and hobbies after yourself. You like one thing, he or she will definitely say they like it as well, even though there's a really high possibility they don't like or don't even know what that is or how you do it ( time decides this, you may be wrong..sit back and observe).
You have something they want. If they see in you a source of unconditional help they will do whatever it takes to make you feel amazing in their presence, get you the things you want, take you out for dinner and whatnot until they have what they wanted from you. Then they start to back away from you, be more cold around you and then ignore you until you give up on trying to find out what just happened.
Phone and social media, two major things to look after when you feel you're being played. He or she will not use the phone around you because everyone has that one friend that has to blow it all. But of course they pick it up when you go away to the bathroom or who knows where. Try to ask to see his or her phone and they'll flip.
At the start of the so called relationship you use to talk/text really often. I get the fact that you don't have to be on your phone all the time or answer a text at the speed of light but if days pass and they fail to respond start putting up question marks. Short, delayed, annoying or sarcastic answers might come, which are signs you should look after .If they care about you, no matter how busy they are and no matter how bad their memory is, they will make time and remember to respond as soon as they have time.
Ever wondered why you don't know most of his or her friends? Well that would mean going deeper into the other's personal life and knowing more about them so they avoid taking you out when he or she meets some friends.
The truth is that after they get what they want from you or just use you as a rebound partner, they'll just back away from you, forgetting about you and moving on while you sit there all hurt and disappointed. Don't let it get to that point...you're better that this. Look out for the small details, the little signs he or she shows and always, ALWAYS be friends with your intuition. You can't trust anyone and anything more than your own intuition. If something seems off take a step back, put all the puzzle pieces together and see the whole picture of it. Don't fall for this pathetic game cause then you'll be the guilty one. You saw what was happening and yet you let it pass hoping that things will get better with time. Naaah that's not how you do this.
Trust in yourself, don't fall for sweet words when every part of your body tells you something is wrong. Look for the best because everyone deserves the best.
