Stuck in the past

      There comes a time when scumbag Cupid strikes. Isn't that what we wish for ? The feathery fellow shooting an arrow at both of you?
      But...there is a but here. One of you has an "inspiring" idea of not caring anymore and everything falls apart. Why did you wish for someone who cares about you if you are not capable of doing that?
      "After 4 years and 2 relationships, I still love her!" he said. Being stuck in the past is not a pleasant feeling. Many suffer because of this, including you and the ones that are around you. Regret and love mixed together keeps your heart in idle mode. Even though you try to get over it, because it may just be a phase, you involve yourself in another relationship, but your heart is with that girl...the one that you figured out too late that really cared about you.
      Letting it all out after all that time, it may put your regret to an end and making way for joy, but you also might turn out as a clingy person. I guess it depends on the significant other.
      It is said that time flies and heals everything but we keep breaking its wings. The answer to this issue is the one that loved you back then. Just don't make the mistake of being stuck in the past. Get out there and do what's good for you and come and live and love today, in the present.

What is a first love to a man?

      What is a first love to a man? Is is something that isn't easily folded? Is it something that you want to unfold again after folding it ? Even if there is fold mark, do you not care ?
      It differs on the situation. If it folds in one go, then it's a thank you. If you open it up again, then it's lingering attachment. If you open it twice then it's sadness. If you open it three times, it's pain. After unfolding it over and over again and it becomes ragged, that's how the heart gets ripped. And when ripped, you just deal with it until you've gone numb. That's how it is.
      Men usually are the stronger sex, so when it comes to these kind of situations, they usually keep it all in, and start breaking into small pieces on the inside, while on the outside they act all calm and smiley. When a man gets his heart broken he indeed becomes numb to everything. A woman passes through this stage as hard but at least they have the capacity to recover a bit. Women tend to let it all out, cry until there's no more tears left; but of course there some tough girls out there that prefer to keep it low and deal with it in silence. Both sexes are different, but sometimes the roles switch. But in most cases it happens like above.
      The rather rare case in that a man starts to love profoundly, then he gets his heart broken is like breaking a piece a glass and then smashing it with a hammer. They become indifferent and silent. The numbness in their heart gets to everyone. They no longer have the eagerness to feel...until they find the girl that manages to take care of their heart.